ARE ANY OF THESE TRUE FOR YOU?
You are in a relationship with a mixed background or identities and not able to always bridge the differences
You are experiencing differences in desire or values
You want to expand or negotiate agreements in ways that are causing discomfort or conflict in the relationship
Your family stuff keeps popping up and causing you issues
You wonder why we can’t talk about the hard things
Uncertain if you should keep doing this
Our triggers do not play well together and we just keep activating each other
You feel this is too hard and are discouraged. The walls between you are getting taller and the gap between you is wider
Your relationship experienced a significant event that has left you feeling disappointed, confused, betrayed or hurt.
You keep circling round the same issues in the same way and your weary of the dynamic and there way you don’t communicate
The loss of intimacy in your relationship is causing you to both shut down or avoiding things
You need to end your relationship but want to do it with grace and love or just want space to explore this as a possibility in a supported way
If you feel any of these things and want support….I help relationships of all shapes and sizes.
In Therapy…
For 15+ years I have worked with all types of relationship issues and supported my client aka “the relationship” to heal.
We will work to navigate differences, heal past and current ruptures. You work on developing tools and skills to strengthen communication, agreements, and the “practice” of how you show up in relationships.
In therapy with me, relationships have:
Strengthened communication
Increased connection, intimacy and sex.
Developed new ways of being together that work better
Explored patterns of conflict styles, attachment styles, trauma responses and other cultural and identity needs
Decided to stay together and make it work
Decided to part ways in love and respect
Healed past betrayals and interrupt patterns getting in their way
Opened to new members or formed clear agreements around non monogamy or other relationship patterns
Developed skills around conflict resolution and reducing activation and trauma responses
I am a non-judgemental, pragmatic and inclusive practitioner. I work with you to reach your goals and to arrive at wherever you need to go. I do not force any particular model or outcome on you because each relationship is unique and so I work with all the training and experiences that I have to co create the work with you.
One specific way that I do work, is that I see relationship clients for 75 or 80 min sessions every other week and in the off week for the same amount of time you do intentional work outside of the therapy space with guidance from me. This work is intended to be for the amount of time that is needed to resolve your relationship goals and we assess frequently to check in and see when we are done.
